雙語(yǔ)：男人最該有和最不該有的六種特質(zhì)

　　The truth is women are always attracted to guys with unique and interesting personalities. In order to be successful with women, you have to know the right kind of characteristics to display to women. In the next few minutes, you'll learn the most important personality traits to display that will draw women to you. Take a look and see if you're doing something wrong!

　　女人事實(shí)上總是會(huì)被男人獨(dú)特而有趣的特質(zhì)吸引。為了成功地吸引女人，你必須知道應(yīng)該將自己的哪一面展現(xiàn)在她們面前。在接下來(lái)的短短時(shí)間里，你將會(huì)學(xué)到吸引女人最該具備的特質(zhì)。看看你是不是有哪些地方做得不對(duì)！

　　Personality Trait 1

　　Do: Confidence 自信

　　Whenever you're talking to women, you have to show absolute confidence in yourself. No matter what happens or comes up, you should act like it doesn't faze you. A confident guy can roll with the punchesand handle himself in all situations.

　　無(wú)論什么時(shí)候和女人接觸都必須表現(xiàn)得絕對(duì)自信。不管發(fā)生什么事情，無(wú)論出現(xiàn)什么狀況，你都應(yīng)該表現(xiàn)得毫不擔(dān)憂。一個(gè)自信的人可以收放自如、從容應(yīng)對(duì)各種局面。

　　Don't: Being Clingy And Insecure. 粘乎乎，不自信

　　By "clingy," I don't mean physically touchy-feely--although womencan be turned off by such behavior. But being psychologically clingy is even worse. You're psychologically clingy when you never leave her side when you're walking around the department store, or when you keep asking if she likes you or if you're her type. This kind of insecurity make women think you're a pest.

　　這里的"粘乎乎"并非指身體上的過(guò)于卿卿我我--盡管這種行為也有可能不招女人待見(jiàn)。心理上的粘乎乎更糟糕。其表現(xiàn)為：當(dāng)你們逛百貨商場(chǎng)時(shí)，你寸步不離她左右；或者你老是問(wèn)她是否愛(ài)你，或問(wèn)你是不是她想要的那種類(lèi)型。這種不自信會(huì)讓女人覺(jué)得你很煩。

　　Personality Trait 2

　　Do: Desirable "花花公子"

　　Women like guys who are pursued by other women. To trigger this reaction, you should flirt and meet with multiple women, instead of trying to attract a single one.

　　女人都對(duì)其他女人追求的男人懷有極大的興趣。要達(dá)到這種效果，你必須學(xué)會(huì)與不同的女人搭訕、調(diào)情，而不是固守一個(gè)獵物。

　　So next time you're in public, try meeting and flirting with different women. Eventually you'll find that there will be a few womenwho are competing for your attention.

　　因此下一次你在公共場(chǎng)所，試試與不同的女人搭訕、調(diào)情。最終你會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)，好幾個(gè)女人都想要吸引你的注意。

　　Don't: Using Insecure Body Language. 使用不自信的身體語(yǔ)言

　　Have you ever acted polite and formal with a woman on the first date You may have faked a few smiles and laughed at all her jokes, trying to maker her like you. It may be "nice," but women also think it's "wussy." She may not see it, but trust me when I say that she sees right through you.

　　初次約會(huì)時(shí)，你是否表現(xiàn)得既禮貌又拘謹(jǐn)？為了讓她喜歡你，你可能時(shí)不時(shí)地堆出虛偽的笑容，聽(tīng)她說(shuō)所有笑話時(shí)都裝著笑出來(lái)。這么做也許讓你顯得"和藹可親",但女人也會(huì)認(rèn)為這是"老實(shí)巴交"。別以為她可能沒(méi)看出來(lái)，但請(qǐng)相信我所說(shuō)的，她已經(jīng)看透了你。

　　Personality Trait 3

　　Do: Center of attention 焦點(diǎn)型

　　When you display this trait, you'll become the guy who captivates the interest of every person you meet. In order to display this trait,you have to establish yourself as an authority with interesting things to say.

　　當(dāng)你展現(xiàn)這個(gè)特質(zhì)時(shí)，每個(gè)在場(chǎng)的人都會(huì)被你吸引。為了顯現(xiàn)這個(gè)特質(zhì)，你必須通過(guò)給她們講有趣的故事來(lái)確立自己的主導(dǎo)地位。

　　When you become the focal point of a room, you'll be able to easily draw beautiful women to you.

　　當(dāng)你成為一屋的焦點(diǎn)時(shí)，你就可以輕易地吸引美女。

　　Don't: Not Leading, Or--Worse--Trying To Get Her To Lead。

　　不去主導(dǎo)，甚或更糟--讓她去主導(dǎo)

　　When you plan to take her out to dinner, but keep asking her whether the time and place is okay for her, then you're giving her the impression that you don't know how to handle a relationship.

　　當(dāng)你計(jì)劃帶她出去吃晚飯時(shí)，卻一個(gè)勁兒地問(wèn)她所定的時(shí)間和地點(diǎn)是否合適，于是你就給她留下了這樣一個(gè)印象：你不知道如何處理好一段關(guān)系。

　　Personality Trait 4

　　Do: Fun to be around "開(kāi)心果"

　　An attractive guy is somebody who can bring fun and excitement to aconversation. If you can make women enjoy themselves when they're around you, then it'll be easy to attract them.

　　一個(gè)有吸引力的家伙可以為談話帶來(lái)笑料。如果你讓女人們覺(jué)得和你在一起很享受，那么你將會(huì)很容易吸引她們。

　　So instead of talking about serious stuff like work, school or your family, try to behave in a flirtatious manner and talk about fun things.

　　所以不要談?wù)撓窆ぷ鳌W(xué)校、家庭之類(lèi)嚴(yán)肅的話題，嘗試表現(xiàn)得有情調(diào)一些，并談?wù)撚腥さ氖虑椤?/P>

　　Don't: Being Boring. 無(wú)聊乏味

　　This is probably the easiest mistake to make. Women love men who can make them laugh and feel good, but hate men who are all flowers, gifts,and dinners.

　　這或許是最易范的錯(cuò)誤了。女人喜愛(ài)能逗她們笑、哄她們開(kāi)心的男人，但卻討厭一天到晚就只知道鮮花、禮物和共進(jìn)晚餐的男人。

　　Personality Trait 5

　　Do: Strength 強(qiáng)勢(shì)

　　Having a strong personality is one of the best ways attract women.

　　強(qiáng)勢(shì)的性格是吸引女性的最佳途徑之一。

　　You can show this personality by always looking a woman in the eyeand maintaining length eye contact. In addition, you should be a person who sets high standards and lives by them.

　　要表現(xiàn)出這一點(diǎn)，你可以一直注視一個(gè)女人的眼睛，并保持一定時(shí)間的目光接觸。此外，你應(yīng)該是一個(gè)為自己設(shè)置高標(biāo)準(zhǔn)并照此生活的人。

　　Don't: Not Understanding That She's A Woman And You're A Man。

　　不明白她是女人而你是男人

　　Women are coy and play hard to get. They enjoy the thrill of "catch me if you can." Men, on the other hand, are competitive and dominant.They play for the win. The problem is that you may not act like a man when you're with her, and women have a word for this: "girly."

　　女人生性害羞，且愛(ài)故作矜持。她們陶醉于"如果你有種，那就來(lái)追我"般的激動(dòng)。而另一方面，男人則富競(jìng)爭(zhēng)性和占有欲，他們?yōu)楂@勝而游戲。可問(wèn)題在于，當(dāng)你和她在一起的時(shí)候，你可能表現(xiàn)得不像個(gè)男人，而女人對(duì)此用一個(gè)詞來(lái)形容："娘兒們"。

　　Personality Trait 6

　　Do: Be challenging 欲擒故縱

　　One mistake other guys make is to be too aggressive with women.

　　有些人常犯的一個(gè)錯(cuò)誤是他們追女人時(shí)太咄咄逼人了。

　　Instead of doing this, you should try make her work for your attraction. For instance, you should do a few things leaves her wondering if you like her. The more she has to work for your affections, the more she'll be into you.

　　與之相反，你應(yīng)該設(shè)法讓她采取行動(dòng)來(lái)吸引你。比如說(shuō)，你應(yīng)該做幾件使她懷疑你是否喜歡她的事。她為討取你的歡心做得越多，她就會(huì)愛(ài)你越深。

　　Don't: Sacrificing your status to make her happy.

　　為討紅顏一笑，寧愿犧牲自己的地位

　　Some men think that if they do everything women want, women would like them more. Big mistake--women hate this kind of behavior. They don't want men who are weak, tentative, and doesn't seem to have his act straight.

　　有些男人以為只要對(duì)女人有求必應(yīng)，那么女人就會(huì)深?lèi)?ài)他們。大錯(cuò)特錯(cuò)--其實(shí)女人討厭這種行為。她們不喜歡軟弱、優(yōu)柔寡斷而且拐彎抹角的男人。